This is very cool information for those men that want to move on with their new girlfriend if I could say so. aha. I've experienced this before, in fact it happened to me yesterday. So, where should I start??
20 April 2010, 9pm: He organized a birthday party for me. It's my 23rd birthday on 21 April! Yeay! Yeay! We did the party in Bugis Street, Ampang and I was genuinely happy and excited since there were about 20 people who came. I was really glad that at least after we got ourselves employed, my friends still managed to come to celebrate my bithday. Eat2, photo2, pay the bills, & everybody went back. There were only the two of us left. Me & him.
21 April 2010, 12am: We went to a park nearby his house. I was thinking.. he wanted to have privacy with me, and to present me with surprises which he used to do. We sat there. And the talking starts. Sharp at 12am 21 April 2010, he asked me to be his friend. According to him he don't see our future of getting married and living together just because of the marriage policy that both of us bonded with. WTH! I was confused, I felt nothing, I was hurt, I felt like there's a knife cutting my heart into two. I begged him to take his words, his decision back. We can talk things through. I definitely will sacrifice my job for him. He won't listen. I cried. Cried hard. Why did he choose to say this on my birthday? Didn't he think it over? He killed me on the day I was born. Yes he did. I will definitely won't be able to celebrate my birthday in coming years. Arrrghh!!! When I asked him. Don't you feel sad? Why don't you cry? He said..he's been thinking about this about 2 months ago. I trusted what he said. He drove me back to my house. I can't sleep the whole night. At first I was hopeless. But when I think back..deep.. I felt that I wanna make things right. I can fix this!
21 April 2010, 8am: Thank God I was on Annual Leave on 21 & 22 April. I was very worried. My love story is at stake! I can't stay put. I must do something. I called his mum. Asked her permission to come to his house and talk things over. Maybe I can get something from his mom. I must back track what had been in his mind for the past two months. Maybe I could get some hints from his mom. That was very positive of me! We talked. For about 2 hours. At least I learn something.
21 April 2010, 2pm: How can I make him happy? That was the only thing that I think for the whole day. Maybe these 5 years I take too much from him but not giving him enough. You know in relationship, we must have this 'give and take' mechanism. Aha. Then the idea comes. Why don't I start by buying him things? Gonna get him a new pouch bag since his pouch bag koyak already. I'll buy a 'Love You' card so that I could write down about my feelings towards him. It's my birthday, I get nothing from him but instead I wanted to give him a present. I'll put this on his car. He always park his car at LRT station.
21 April 2010, 5pm: Where is his car? I cannot find it! It's okay. I just pulled over to the side and waited there. Suddenly I saw his car. Quite fast heading not towards his house, where did he wanna go ya? I just followed him from behind. At one of the traffic light, I pulled at the side and my car was exactly beside his. I was shocked to death seeing there's a lady beside him. A free hair lady. Then it all strikes me. That answers everything. Everything. Funny me. Funny situation.
21 April 2010, 8pm: We talked. We had dinner together. I asked him for a second chance. He said he cannot stand my perangai. It's okay. I am willing to change..for him. He won't listen. He was firm on staying to be friends with me. Okay2. I'll try to be his friend first. Maybe I'll show him that I can change. We talked, just like friends. He said he and that lady are just friends. He convinced me that. The most sad things here is I believed every single thing he said. Because he is the most sincere, truthful man I've ever met.
22 April 2010, 6.30am: Called him. Begged him to take Annual Leave today. I wanted to take him to Port Dickson. Maybe he can have a clear mind there. We both will feel calm. We can always talk things over there. Having the positive mindset again.Hmm.. He agreed. I went to his house and fetched him. We spent for about 3 hours there. But nothing much achieved. He was really firm with his decision. I felt hopeless and believe that there's nothing much I could do. So, I started to text all of my friends saying that I'm once again single!. But I didn't say we break up. Never did I say that word- b.r.e.a.k.u.p.
6 May 2010, 9pm: 6 May is our anniversary. I was thinking probably this is just his act. He wanted to make this anniversary more bermakna and we'll remember this forever! I fantasized too much. I came to the park where he dumped me on my birthday. Waited there.. 9pm, 10pm, 11pm. He didn't show up. I don't know how much tears I've wasted for him, for that night. I was hopeless. At 11pm I gave up and drove back home.
8 May 2010, 3.30pm: He sms me that morning. And I felt like normal. I called him and we talked. Getting to talk with him again like we used to do. I felt happy. Then I asked him to follow me to do some shopping. He said he's not ready to see me yet. Hmm.. Set aside his unreadiness to see me, I felt energized and put on my positive mindset hat. Okay. Whatever it is, I will definitely wait for him at the park where he dumped me that night. Waited there 3.30pm, 4.30pm, 5.30pm, 6.30pm. He didn't show up pun. I was very very very upset and cried so much during that 3 hours. At 6.30pm I had to take my own decision. He had given me this unbearable pain. I have to decide. If not, I keep waiting him like crazy every day. So, I sms him. With this, I officially letting you go. I promised you I will not sms, nor call you anymore. I will not see you again. Don't worry. I promised you these. He replied. Funny. He replied "Drive elok2 jam ni..". He made it like there were no serious decision I made two seconds ago. I drove back. Tears running down my cheek. God knows how hurt I was.
16 May 2010, 8am: He sms me. He said he wanna see me. We have to talk things over. We have to make decision. I consulted with my friends. They said it was Sunday. If the decision we both made don't benefit me, I will be crazy and I will not be able to go to work tomorrow morning. There was no ample time for me to recover from the sadness. Following my friends' advice, I replied him, "I am not ready. And there's no enough time".
28 May 2010, 12pm: I unblocked him from gtalk. His status message changed to "Saya nampak die online". Then I changed my status to "Awak nampak siapa online?". Then we chat. I asked to meet him today. To talk things over. He said okay. It's gonna be tonight. I had dinner at Wangsa Walk that night with my friends. I asked him to come over and fetch me at Wangsa Walk. He came. First time I saw him for how many weeks. He didn't see me at first. He called. I picked up. We talked while I quietly approached him and slipped my hands on his. I really missed holding his hands. It has been a while since I get to touch him. He smiled. We headed towards one of the shop to get some drinks. We sat down and the talking started. Since you have triggered the idea of breaking up with me, he accused me that. You told the whole world that you are now single. So now I want to make it official. I mean, our break up. My heart sank. While talking, his phone rang. Quite a few times. But then he didn't pick up. I took his phone and I saw who's calling. There was zZz and the picture of him together with the girl. I asked, how serious are you both now? He said, they were just friends. That's all. We stayed at the kopitiam until it closed. We continued our talking in his car. He became more and more difficult and harsh. He asked me to let him go. I asked him, please help me, please make me hate you. Then here goes the answer from him. "I've declared my love with that girl. We are couple now since 16 May 2010". WTH! WTF! I can't stand the pain. The pain in my chest. I wanna run. But where to? I cried. I cried so much and I started to accuse him for everything. I said he's really into that girl from the very start. The marriage policy that he mentioned at first when he asked me to be his friend was just a reason for him to be with that betina sundal. It's clear now. He said, he don't know how busuk his name's gonna be tomorrow since I now know his status with that betina. Now only I can read his perfect plan to dump me without having his good name scratched. He is using this to point it all back to me. It's funny but quite a perfect plan by having these 2 phases.
Phase 1: Asked me to be his friend on my birthday. He knows my nature. He knows that I will overreact. When I overreact, I will definitely make things worse. Plus, that is my talent. To make things worse. When things get worse and it is all because of me, this is the perfect chance for making reason to go to phase two.
Phase 2 : He asked for an official break up from me. He stated that he was not at fault. He was asking for being friends with me not break up! I'm the one who overreacted and make things worse. I'm the one who texted everybody and said that I am now single. According to him every decisions he made is all because of me. I'm the one who initiated every thing. There's the pointing finger. Yeah! Point the fingers at me. Blame it on me! God knows those were all your reasons. Org bodoh and buta pun boleh analyze la your hidden agenda tu. Jumping from one reason to another reason. As penamat, he grabbed my hand very tight. It was painful. I cried. Because of the pain on my hand. These words that I won't be able to forget, he yelled at me,
"Berambus ko!Aku ckp ngn ko, ko x faham2.Aku nak balek.Aku mls nk ckp ngn pompuan mcm ni"
I will remember this jantan sial. Selagi hayat dikandung badan, I will hold grudges towards you.
Selamat pengantin baru & semoga berbahagia lah jantan sial and betina sundal.
His reasons.....
Reason 1: Marriage Policy -> Reason 2: Since I dah kecoh kate kt sume org we both dah break up
The memories.....
21 April: He dumped me
6 May: Our anniversary
16 May: His anniversary with betina sundal
For all ladies who have been dumped and treated badly by your previous men : I pray for you so that you'll get a better men in the future
For all men out there : You better watch out. Don't ever play with girls' heart, because what goes round comes around.
Love Story Full Stop.
